One way to take the passion out of lovemaking is to come into it with goals in mind. It seems natural to gave the goal of ejaculation or orgasm. But these goals are very limited. These are the least interesting aspects of sexual intimacy. These are simply goals of our basic self — the primal self who desires to procreate. All animals have these goals. It is built into our basic survival wiring. But we are so much more than that. This is article #3 of '100 Ways to Create Intimacy & Connection'.
An empath is someone who feels the emotions of others. Early on in life, this can be very confusing because we can’t discern between the emotions of others and our own. So, we think that we are upset all of the time, when in fact, these are not our emotions at all — they belong to those around us. What happens when an empath is in an intimate relationship?