The key to keeping the fire alive is to be perpetually in pursuit of the other. This pursuit can go either way. But the lion’s share of this pursuit must be done by the masculine partner if you are to experience the true energy and excitement of union.
Intimacy is the total opening of our hearts to each other. This requires a safe place to be open. Kindness opens us and brings us closer. One single act without kindness changes everything. This is article #2 of the series: '100 Ways to Create Intimacy & Connection'.
One of the main practices in tantric intimacy is to eye-gaze with our partner. Why? Why is this such an important part of genuine connection? This is article #1 of '100 Ways to Create Intimacy in Your Relationship'.
One way to take the passion out of lovemaking is to come into it with goals in mind. It seems natural to gave the goal of ejaculation or orgasm. But these goals are very limited. These are the least interesting aspects of sexual intimacy. These are simply goals of our basic self — the primal self who desires to procreate. All animals have these goals. It is built into our basic survival wiring. But we are so much more than that. This is article #3 of '100 Ways to Create Intimacy & Connection'.